Relationships can be challenging and less than perfect from what we dreamed about. However, Are unhappy most of the time?
Beyond physical abuse, some relationship ‘red flags’ may be dismissed as common ways to cope. That’s a mistake. Incessant criticism and mean comments can be signs of a toxic partner.. A lot of people in toxic relationships may not even experience domestic violence or physical threat.
One of the first signs of a toxic relationship is that your partner is very controlling and you feel frightened to share your opinions because you’re nervous and afraid of your partner’s emotional reaction.
Toxic relationships make you feel drained, depleted, and sometimes even distraught. If you’re convinced your relationship is toxic, it’s time to get out.
Signs you’re in a toxic relationship
You’re always fighting
While some bickering is even healthy for your relationship, constant misunderstanding is a bad sign. As couples get to know each other better, there should be a progression toward more understanding and less misunderstanding. Poor communication that never improves is toxic because without communication, a relationship can never move forward.
Your partner wants you all to himself
When a partner or pal wants you to break off relationships with friends and family, that is a sign of a toxic relationship. Isolating the partner from friends and family is upsetting because it is an attempt to control and manipulate without interference from the partner’s support system.
You feel like you didn’t sign up for this
There is a difference between staying in a relationship because you’re comfortable and staying because you truly want to be there.
If you’re starting to have thoughts like, ‘This is not like it used to be,’ ‘This is not what I signed up for,’ or ‘This doesn’t feel good anymore,’ it is possible that what was a good relationship has turned toxic. If you find that your partner doesn’t feel much like a partner or lover any longer—and he or she is bringing you down more than lifting you up, you need to rethink your relationship.
Your partner stonewalls
Partners need to talk about a lot of important things in relationships. If your partner flat-out refuses to talk about important relationship topics, like when to have a baby or buy a home, you may be in a toxic relationship.
Your partner purposely avoids you.
Does it seem he doesn’t want to be around you? Maybe he/she gives double messages that make you feel confused (e.g. saying, “Of course I love you” while not behaving in a loving manner). When he doesn’t want to be physically affectionate, you end up feeling rejected. Meanwhile, he complains that you are too needy.
- There’s a constant power tug-of-war game
- You feel a uneasy or afraid of your partner
- Reminiscing on the beginning instead of looking toward the future
- Arguing without communicating
- Excessive Jealousy and the blame game
- Criticism and contempt
- Loaded with negative energy
- Ceaseless control issues
Other Signs Include:
All take, no give: Any relationship in which you experience withdrawals of energy without deposits will leave you in the negative.
Feeling drained: If, instead of feeling happy and productive, you’re always mentally, emotionally, and even physically drained, it’s time to re-evaluate.
Lack of trust: A relationship without trust is like a car without gas: You can stay in it all you want, but it won’t go anywhere.
Hostile atmosphere: Constant anger is a sure sign of an unhealthy relationship. You should never be around hostility because it makes you feel unsafe.
Constant judgment:In judgmental relationships, criticism is not intended to be helpful but rather to belittle.
Persistent unreliability: Mutual reliability is important to building trust and is at the core of any good relationship.
Nonstop narcissism: If the other party’s interest in the relationship is really just a reflection of him or herself, it’s impossible to achieve any kind of balance.
Continuous disrespect: Mutual respect is the first requirement of a good partnership.
Feelings of unworthiness: It’s an insidious thing negative relationships do: They leave you feeling you don’t deserve any better.
Vibes of entrapment: Is the other person a positive force in your life, or are you there because you don’t see any way out?
Always undermining: If a relationship can’t be reassuring, it’s failing a crucial test.
Packed with uncertainty: When nothing is sure, forward movement feels impossible.
Permeates victimhood: You can’t move onto the future if you’re tied to someone who’s still stuck in the past.
Diminishes your self-worth: When you’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t acknowledge your value, it can be hard to see it yourself.
If you are currently experiencing any of the above, it’s time to take back control of your life. Remember; your happiness, peace of mind and sanity should always come first.